How can you deal with your problems in ways that lead you towards your unique qualities and strengths?

People go to Pantarei practitioners, in order to help them change the things in their lives they view as problematic. It could be the quarrels they often have in their relationships, or their desire to find a partner. It could be a persistent feeling of loneliness or jealousy that they do not know how to deal with. Or it could be a lack of motivation, difficulties concentrating, or even muscle tension that keeps reappearing. The question is: How can you deal with your problems in ways that lead you towards your unique qualities and strengths?

Whatever your reasons for working with a Pantarei practitioner, the approach will get you exploring your unique qualities and abilities. Practitioners use a combination of touch and verbal communication to lead you towards your desired outcome. They know that the answers exist within you. And that by exploring your resources, you will also be able to find your creative way in which to deal with your problems.

A problem, whatever it may be, is also a motivation for change.

Nobody likes to feel their problems, or even to have any. At the same time, we all know that without them, we are unlikely to have created the changes in our lives that have brought us the things we truly wanted. Realizing this, allows us to embrace our challenges with curiosity and interest. If you consider your life, we are sure that you would realize that some truly positive changes you have made were a direct result of something you first experienced as being problematic.

It might have been a change in your career that was made due to the frustration you felt in your previous profession. Maybe it is your current partner that you met only after the many problematic relationships you were able to work through. You might even find that you have identified some of your strengths as a result of dealing with what you might have considered as a crisis.

While working through a problem, we aren’t always able to perceive it as a motivation for change. It is therefore helpful to reflect back on other problems we have dealt with, in order to realize what we have learned from them.

Our problems show us parts of who we are

The first thing that we would suggest you do when facing a problem, is to connect to your own heart and strength. This can be done through conscious breathing, certain exercises, or in a session with a Pantarei practitioner. Obviously, you would also need to identify the action steps required, in order to deal with the situation. Yet many of those steps will open up in front of you, when you connect to yourself first.

A good first step, before you focus all your attention on a specific problem you have, is to consider what you can learn about yourself and the resources you have at your disposal. Try to better understand what the problem says about your values, your priorities, your strengths.

If you feel lonely, remember that this feeling may also be seen as an expression of how much you love people and being in their company.

When you are confronted with frustration and anger, it may also show you your passion for the topics that made you feel this way.

If you find it difficult to express yourself, it may also show how much you appreciate having a high level of certainty or clarity.

Understanding the above when you are in the middle of trying to deal with your problems, is already a great step in the right direction. Not only are you then more likely to find a creative solution, but you would also learn so much about yourself along the way.

Think of one of the things you relate to as a problem in your life. What does this say about you? Your resources? And what you care about?

Our world shrinks when we focus on the problem.

When we put all our focus on a problem we are facing, our world shrinks, and the problem usually grows. In addition, we start to feel that we are the problem.

For example, if you feel lonely, and focus on your loneliness, it can easily lead you to withdraw from other people. This may serve only to strengthen the sensation you have that people don’t want to spend time with you or that there is no-one you can relate to. This can even be accompanied by the feeling that you are unworthy of affection and love. Focusing on, and trying to deal with your problem, without taking a broader perspective, can so easily lead to even more suffering, or to a sense of despair, with no solution in sight.

When you deal with your problems, you need to find a way to expand your perception and to see that you are so much more than the problem you are faced with.

What does the Pantarei Approach offer?

Sessions of the Pantarei Approach allow you to focus on your resources and strengths. You get to recognize that the solution is within you. If you face loneliness, you might be directed to notice, for example, how much of this sensation illustrates your desire to feel others more deeply in your life.

It is true, that you will have to face the sadness of your loneliness and not having what you wish for. But it would also connect you with your desire and motivation for something else. We believe that it is your motivation, your resources, and your wishes that would eventually lead you in the direction you want for yourself.

This is usually not in any linear fashion, but rather, takes you through interesting and often surprising paths; paths that reveal so much more than a simple ‘solution’ to a problem.

Our Pantarei sessions always focus on the unique qualities of our clients. We see it time and time again, that when we work through our problems in this way, they become doors that connect us with our unique resources and strengths in life. And by focusing on your resources you get to explore, discover, and more often than not, find new and creative solutions along the way.

Does focusing on your unique strengths and resources sound like a good start in order for you to deal more easily with your problems?

 

Written by Claudia Glowik and Vered Manasse